Finding Your Xanadu

Don’t go it alone.
Executives today rely on the expertise and support of an executive coach to help them be the best example of leadership. Leaders who bring in a top coach boast significant increases:
✓Organizational strength by 48%
✓Productivity by 53%
✓Job satisfaction by 61%
✓Teamwork by 67%
✓Working relationships by 77%
✓In fact, high level executive coaching has been shown to yield an ROI of over 570%.

What I have experienced in my years as a business consultant for high level organizations is those who sit at the top find themselves in a very lonely place. There are some companies where it is an overnight success and an overnight disappointment, but I have also spoken with many individuals who have fought 20-30 years to get their success only to find absolute misery. Chris Sajnog, retired Navy SEAL, teaches that “mediocrity is a disease.” And that kind of disease spreads as quickly as any rampant virus, contaminating everyone in its path.

Failure is a constant fear hanging over our heads and the truth is that success does not come without a heavy dose of frustration, disappointment and failure. Striving for humility and encouraging others and leading by example; showing that you’re not only capable of mastering skills but that your heart is in it and that the love that you feel for the team that you work with supersedes all else results in a concert of sacrifice and service that opens the gates of Xanadu. We teach a concept called “Rich but Miserable,” built around the sad fact that so many successful people find themselves so disillusioned once they obtain their goal. Xanadu enables us to be excellent and dwell in peace simultaneously.

Today’s smartest and most successful executives thrive because of their secret weapons: objective mentors. These experts are sought for their ability to view and facilitate solutions to many issues facing the executive. Utilizing the talent and knowledge of these outside experts gives an advantage over their competition by adding a birds-eye view to the organizational leadership.
The brain trust formed by internal and external experts allow leaders to work teams at their best, working collaboratively to solve the most challenging problems, building teamwork, and increasing productivity. This use of agile talent keeps the team nimble and encourages closer relationships internally.

Vivek Wadhwa said “A key to achieving success is to assemble and stable management team.” Xanadu is not something that can be achieved alone. To accept this as truth puts you one step closer to finding your inner happiness.

The “C” Word

I was re-introduced to the religion that I hated the most – and despised their followers the most – in a very real way. It was Christianity. The dreaded ‘C’ word, yes! But this time it was with logic, facts, sheer data. I’m an engineer and a business man. That approach was very appealing to me. It was a four months intense soul-searching journey. Still, I was trapped in my vices and unable to give them up until I challenged God to take away my addictions. I quit smoking, drinking, drugs and womanizing overnight and have never looked back. Lest you think this was an easy feat, it might be interesting to share here that at the time, I owned the most popular and edgy night club in Budapest, and I definitely enjoyed the offerings at least as much as our clientele. But still, no cravings, all gone overnight; this was my own personal miracle. Wherever your miracles come from, I wish you to joy of healing and the freedom of finding your own Xanadu.

The Xanadu Code is the culmination of the knowledge gained through my research and my life experiences. It is an integrated performance based approach to empower business leaders with strength to balance intense demands with the personal, psychological, and physiological needs to continue to function at the highest levels. These principles come from decades of work on four continents and over thirty different countries, with very different cultures. They work.

Through our proprietary process, we assess your strengths, talents, values, vision, frustrations, obstacles, and intentions. The Xanadu Code offers business executives and owners a safe place to grow, learn, and rejuvenate. Through our carefully guided process, we develop a personalize path to Xanadu, your very own sanctuary. Our commitment is to provide hands-on tools to claim the sanctuary that will enable you to work to your highest potential without risking burnout. Xanadu Code is based on a network of business, health, psychological, and motivational experts to support your path to sanctuary.

Xanadu Code is the key to peace and prosperity in a chaotic world. It is not a regular self-help mumbo jumbo, neither is a life coaching class. This is for those men (yes, only males) who are highly successful in their business, but unable to find the peace they crave. If this sounds like you, I know how you feel. You are not alone. You are not going crazy. Don’t worry. The failure of traditional coaching, guruing, patronizing, call it whatever you want is that it is only dealing with one area of your life. That leads to conflict in another one. You are not three different men. You are not one dad, one husband and one boss. You are you! Xanadu Code will teach you how to get back in the driver seat over your body, soul and spirit.

Are You Ready?

Unplug And Recharge

Most people who dream of becoming self-employed desire the freedom and flexibility that comes with not having to work for someone else. While they most likely love what they do and may start out with some solid boundaries for work-life balance, the responsibilities that come with running a growing business can erode that freedom and flexibility. When people put their hearts and souls into building their businesses, it can be a very difficult transition to trust employees to be left alone to do what they have been hired to do. 83% of small business owners needed help from friends, family and community last year to keep their doors open. 38% required loans to continue operating and 53% relied on the goodwill of family to help them run the business. In the balance hangs the ability of these same businesses of which 52% anticipate revenue growth and 55% who plan to expand their business, while only 25% plan to hire more support to maintain these ambitious goals.

We are concerned to know that 90% of CEOs continue to miss out on major opportunities for profit and growth because they are unaware of or unprepared for them. In my experience, I have witnessed far too many very smart business owners choose to gain their lessons through hard, costly personal trials. Our hope is that we can save you some of the time and frustration that we have witnessed, so that you have the focus, the energy and the capacity to grab hold of the best that is in front of you, for yourself, your family, your employees, and your business, so that you are even better prepared to advance business success.
There are three major obstacles that hold businesses back:

1. Failure to anticipate the road ahead:
Despite 79% of today’s top executives identifying adaptability as the only way to overcome business challenges, less than 1/3 of entrepreneurs have the resources to see either threats or prospects on the horizon.

2. Lack of follow-through:
The state of overwhelm catching so many business people off guard leaves more than half of business owners concerned that they are making poor decisions, either making the wrong decision or making the right decision too late.

3. Fear:
Business is a scary place to be right now. 55% of entrepreneurs say they are so concerned about losing their business completely, they adopt an overly cautious approach that makes them indecisive.

Despite so many challenges, determined executives and business owners battle on. They do not give up in the face of economic devastation and their own declining health.

Fatigue could result in extreme sleepiness and loss of situational awareness, which may impact all levels of mission readiness, August 14, 2012, Joint-Base Langley-Eustis, Va. (U.S. Air Force photo by Staff Sgt. Krystie Martinez/Released)

The Japanese have studied this occurrence for many years. Karoshi, Japanese term for death by overwork, is a result of cortisol overload, which has the potential to increase cardiovascular disease by 50%. characterized by overproduction of cortisol, a hormone that can result in a 50% increase in the likelihood of cardiovascular disease. The good news is there are proven formulas that can empower you to take back control of your energy and find both the performance and the sanctuary needed for you to find both success and happiness.

Stressed About My Stress

At the end of every calendar year, milestones, KPIs and endless demands become a game against the clock, many executives find themselves moving slower instead of faster, with the pressures of making the “right” decision resulting in non-decision. Second-guessing instead of productive movement becomes a cyclical trap.

Unfortunately, this decision paralysis is often incredibly damaging for two reasons. First, it causes your team to second-guess all of their decisions, making it almost impossible for them to stay productive. According to a recent study by Project: Time Off, surprisingly even the millennial generation gets just as trapped into “Work Martyrs” as any of the Boomers who have always been criticized for such actions. Check for yourself to see if you have ever thought any of the study’s most common excuses:
▪ “No one else at my company can do the work while I’m away.”
▪ “I want to show complete dedication to my company and job.”
▪ “I don’t want others to think I am replaceable.”
▪ “I feel guilty for using my paid time off.”

The demands of martyrdom almost never yield thriving businesses or happy leaders. More often, exhaustion, stress, anxiety, poor health, reduced productivity and relationship problems are the reward for the nonstop dedication.
Once we reach the space of “Work Martyr”, we are consumed with analysis paralysis, sometimes called decision paralysis. At this stage, we have two routes of escape (that’s right, only 2).

1. Reduce the sources of stress
2. Increase your ability to manage the effects of stress

Let’s do some math, a day has 24 hours in it and a week 168. The average professional now reports spending 72 hours in work related activities.

▪ 168 hours in the week
▪ 72 hours working
▪ Leaves 92 hours for rest, family, community, church, yard work, etc.

To be productive, experts advise getting a minimum of 8 hours sleep per night, so let’s assume you want to be as productive at work as you can and you follow that schedule (we know you don’t… but let’s pretend).

▪ 56 hours of sleep (8 hours/night)

Now divide your 36 remaining hours in the week to meet your other obligations. Not working, is it? That’s why 33% of Americans report stress so extreme that it is toxic resulting in serious, life threatening illnesses.


I believe in learning from the greatest thinkers of our time. In their book The Power Of Full Engagement, Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz share key ideas in how we can manage energy not time to unlock the potential for high performance and personal renewal simultaneously. The first and most important principle is that our most valuable resource is energy not time. Let me repeat that: the most important asset that we have is our energy, not our time. We make a critical error every time we manage our performance and our expectations based on the time available to us rather than scoping all projects and obligations based on the energy that is gained or expended through each effort. This simple shift in thinking can make such a difference in how we approach not only our work life, but our every day existence. It can transform a list of chores into a more meaningful and productive experience. It is only through careful management of our energy that full engagement is even a possibility.

Let’s face it: when you took on your leadership role, you accepted that you would be faced with an increased burden of stress. The good news is that there are formulae, templates and “codes” to shortcut the “suffer and learn by my own mistakes” painful route. The Xanadu Code is a thorough analysis of the stress triggers and support systems already in place, followed by a customized solution to minimize stress and maximize productivity, individually, as a team, as a company, to whatever level you deem critical to discovering your own Xanadu.

Origins Of Xanadu


What exactly is Xanadu? Well webster’s defines it as: an idyllic, exotic, or luxurious place. However, they type of Xanadu we are talking about is so much more than just a place, it’s a state of being. A mindset. A way of life.
Genghis Khan and his grandson Kubla Khan carried the heavy burdens of leadership, relying on a system of rejuvenation through sanctuary to maintain their ferocity and strength. The development of a sanctuary, a Xanadu to borrow the phrase from Kubla Khan and Samuel Taylor Coleridge, made world domination over many generations a reality and provides today’s business executives with a pattern to achieve and enjoy immense triumph.
The challenges faced by leaders in today’s world would make anyone want to run for a sanctuary… to retreat from the madness. However, for us to progress, for our leaders to fulfill their potential and protect and guide our society, battles must be waged and won, with the Xanadu, the sanctuary, used as a tool for renewal, as a way to recharge and succeed. I have had the great fortune to stand on the shoulders of giants, giants in business, giants in spirituality, giants in wisdom. It is my hope to share some of these lessons and make clear the path to a sanctuary to which you might lay claim.
Only by finding relief in his summer palace, Xanadu, was Khan able to maintain his long, successful reign.
How then, would a modern-day conqueror, a successful businessperson, a leader, maintain their own dynasties without a similar sanctuary?
When our true self and our external self are in harmony, when we balance the demands and the nourishment needed to meet those demands, we find our Xanadu, and we finally come to the point where we can enjoy the bounty of our labors. Xanadu Code, Reclaiming your Path to Passion, Purpose, Power and Peace is a labor of love and concern for the most critical leaders, tasked with shaping and growing our economy, finding new and better ways to conduct business, generally solving the world’s problem one piece at a time. It is the modern heroes, the modern warriors of the business world for whom this book is written and dedicated, with the hope that all who seek shall find the peace that may be had when Xanadu is found.
The entire premise of the Xanadu Code, created as a culmination of decades of experience guiding top leaders, is to identify the best practices of top leaders in their fields and replicate those practices that empower without debilitating. We have learned there are three types of people: those who wish for success, those who work for and achieve success, and those who must share their knowledge once success has been achieved. My mission is to expedite the journey to Xanadu, where success and contentment can coexist. My passion is enabling leaders, business owners, entrepreneurs, geniuses like yourself to experience the joys that success should yield.

Going Rogue = Going Down

The Harvard Business Review reports, “The goal of coaching is the goal of good management: to make the most of an organization’s valuable resources.” In today’s world of do-it-yourselfing, independent thinking, and lone rangering, the common denominator is failure. Success is NOT a lonely endeavor, it is one crowded with supporters, with resources, and most importantly a mentor that can bring a business executive to his/her highest levels of performance.

Today’s smartest and most successful executives thrive because of their secret weapons: objective mentors. These experts are sought for their ability to view and facilitate solutions to many issues facing the executive. Utilizing the talent and knowledge of these outside experts gives an advantage over their competition by adding a birds-eye view to the organizational leadership.

The brain trust formed by internal and external experts allow leaders to work teams at their best, working collaboratively to solve the most challenging problems, building teamwork, and increasing productivity. This use of agile talent keeps the team nimble and encourages closer relationships internally.

A good friend once explained the importance of outside advice with the question: “How can you read the label if you are inside the jar?” Obviously, multiple perspectives can vastly improve the quality of the information available to executives in making key decisions. It stimulates faster development and better longevity.

A coach is a BAD IDEA for you if the following apply:

§ You have all of the fresh ideas and the confidence that goes with them to carry your business through 2017.

§ You are not and have never been stuck in your business or career.

§ Your team is a cohesive, happy unit that sees all and knows all.

§ You are far too advanced for someone else to see any weaknesses in my thinking, disciplines or actions.

§ Your future is SOOOOO bright, even shades are not enough.

A great coach can make a tremendous difference to a business. In a comprehensive study by the International Coach Federation, participants reported:

§ a median 700% increase on investment for those that retained coaching for a minimum of 6 months.

§ 51% said their team effectiveness increased.

§ 61% reported better overall business management.

§ 72% saw improved communication skills.

§ An astounding 73% noticed a much higher quality of interpersonal relationships.

But, maybe you are in the category above and do NOT need the intelligence or insight of someone else. If that’s that case, you are in good company with the others watching the leaders in your industry pull ahead. If, on the other hand, you are ready for innovation and domination in 2017, perhaps we should talk.

Impossible Dreams and the Code that May be Able to Make Them Come True

Did you see the just released Bank of America Report on Small Business Owners?

83% of small business owners needed help from friends, family and community last year to keep their doors open. 38% required loans to continue operating and 53% relied on the good will of family to help them run the business.

In the balance hangs the ability of these same businesses of which 52% anticipate revenue growth and 55% who plan to expand their business, while only 25% plan to hire more support to maintain these ambitious goals.

Business owners and high level executives today suffer physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually trying to succeed in what feels like a never ending rat race. 78% complain of unmanageable levels of stress and stress related illnesses.

Built around 1252 AD, Xanadu was the sanctuary for the conquering Kubla Khan, the place where chaos, violence, and evil gave way to peace, harmony and productivity. For hundreds of years, the Xanadu, described by Samuel Taylor Coleridge, was thought to be a myth until archaeologists discovered the ruins of the sacred sanctuary where art and culture thrived, new ideas were sought, and peace reigned supreme.

The Xanadu Code is the definitive guide for businesspersons to carve out their own personal Xanadu, escaping stress and embracing  the beauty and function of harmonious business practices.

To meet the demands of the seemingly impossible dream of business owners across the globe requires an unfair advantage…namely a highly qualified, highly motivational coach, whose involvement has been proven to result in increased:

  • Organizational strength by 48%
  • Productivity by 53%
  • Job satisfaction by 61%
  • Teamwork by 67%
  • Working relationships by 77%

Did you know that the typical return on investment for high level executive coaching, particularly from a faith based perspective, yields a 570% increase?

So how does one go about finding the right coach? A Harvard Business Review study ranked the top qualifications as having experience coaching in a similar and working from a clear methodology and values system that fits yours.

So where to start? The entire premise of the Xanadu Code is to identify the best practices of top leaders in their fields and replicate those practices that empower without debilitating. What are your top techniques for maxing out your productivity while maintaining a healthy life balance?

Knowledge is power. By identifying and capitalizing on proven methods to reduce stress and maximize productivity and life satisfaction, the Xanadu Code, the path to peaceful innovation and progress, becomes clear.

For more information, contact founder and CEO Zsolt Bicskey at www.XanaduCode.com.

Executive Paralysis: How Thinking You Can Do It All Can Trap You Into Doing Nothing

Scientifically labelled, Analysis Paralysis, is an anti-pattern, the state of over-analyzing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome.

At the end of every calendar year, milestones, KPIs and endless demands become a game against the clock, many executives find themselves moving slower instead of faster, with the pressures of making the “right” decision resulting in non-decision. Second-guessing instead of productive movement becomes a cyclical trap.

Unfortunately, this decision paralysis is often incredibly damaging for two reasons. First, it causes your team to second-guess all of their decisions, making it almost impossible for them to stay productive. According to a recent study by Project: Time Off, surprisingly even the millennial generation gets just as trapped into “Work Martyrs” as any of the Boomers who have always been criticized for such actions. Check for yourself to see if you have ever thought any of the study’s most common excuses:

  • “No one else at my company can do the work while I’m away.”
  • “I want to show complete dedication to my company and job.”
  • “I don’t want others to think I am replaceable.”
  • “I feel guilty for using my paid time off.”

The demands of martyrdom almost never yield thriving businesses or happy leaders. More often, exhaustion, stress, anxiety, poor health, reduced productivity and relationship problems are the reward for the nonstop dedication.

Once we reach the space of “Work Martyr”, we are consumed with analysis paralysis, sometimes called decision paralysis. At this stage, we have two routes of escape (that’s right, only 2).

1.      Reduce the sources of stress

2.      Increase your ability to manage the effects of stress

So let’s assume that you have had enough of playing “Work Martyr” and want to reclaim your time and energy. We refer to that space as Xanadu, your refuge from the storm, your own formula for decreasing stress and increasing profitability.

So where to start? The entire premise of the Xanadu Code is to identify the best practices of top leaders in their fields and replicate those practices that empower without debilitating. What are your top techniques for maxing out your productivity while maintaining a healthy life balance?

Knowledge is power. By identifying and capitalizing on proven methods to reduce stress and maximize productivity and life satisfaction, the Xanadu Code, the path to peaceful innovation and progress, becomes clear.

For more information, contact founder and CEO Zsolt Bicskey at www.XanaduCode.com.

Rant for Small Business Owners

Have you heard this one yet?

A quote from an interview with the head of a growing company. Journalist asks:

– So how many employees are working in your company?

– Approximately half of them…

Small business owners just can’t seem to catch the breaks they need. The National Small Business Association (NSBA) just released the 2016 Mid-Year Economic Report, revealing to no one’s surprise that the small-business community is still in economic trouble. As an executive coach, I have to shake my head and wonder why this comes as a surprise to anyone?

Only 72% of small-business owners express a measure of confidence in the stability of their own business and the number of businesses expecting increased revenue next year continues to fall. Is it any wonder that so many executives are plagued with unmanageable levels of stress and their accompanying diseases?

One of the most overlooked strategies to maximize productivity is use of an executive coach. The unfair advantage gained by these executives is hard to dispute:

  • Increased organizational strength by 48%
  • Greater productivity by 53%
  • Higher levels of job satisfaction by 61%
  • Teamwork by 67%
  • Working relationships by 77%

The Return on Investment (ROI) of engaging in executive coaching is an astonishing 570%. Business owners and executives serve as the backbone of a global economy in trouble. We need them at their best to reclaim our hold on prosperity. At Xanadu Code, we think we have a solution that would benefit some of these hard working executives, but it won’t be a fit for everyone. We specialize, so don’t rely on just one concept… look for a coach that really gets you… that can immediately add value to your organization and peace to your life.

For hundreds of years, the Xanadu described by Samuel Taylor Coleridge was thought to be a myth until archaeologists discovered the ruins of the sacred sanctuary where art and culture thrived, new ideas were sought, and peace reigned supreme. The Xanadu Code is the definitive guide for businesspersons to carve out their own personal Xanadu, escaping stress and embracing the beauty and function of harmonious business practices.

If you find yourself too closely resembling the statistics reported by the U.S. National Small Business Association, perhaps we should talk, but perhaps not… if you like what you see at www.xanaducode.com, let’s chat.

SOURCE National Small Business Association

Xanadu Code: Six Simple Ways To Reduce Your Executive Stress Levels

Between the crazy pressure to compete economically, the many competitors seeking ways to crush you, your never-ending hours at work, whether at the office or solving problems via your smart phone, the stress of running a successful business can be literally soul crushing.

Ironically, the movements of late for

work life

balance have actually backfired.  A recent study by Project: Time Off, younger generations of executives are just as likely as Boomers to trap themselves into a life of “work martyrdom”.  The arguments made in defense:

  • “No one else at my company can do the work while I’m away.”
  • “I want to show complete dedication to my company and job.”
  • “I don’t want others to think I am replaceable.”
  • “I feel guilty for using my paid time off.”

Business leaders find themselves exhausted by these impossible demands, resulting in high levels of stress, anxiety, health problems, relationship complications, and deteriorating work performance, all culminating in a level of dissatisfaction nearly impossible to shake.

Work martyrs face 2 choices:

  • Reduce the sources of stress
  • Increase your ability to manage the effects of stress

So let’s assume that you are not going to quit your job and retire early… that leaves finding ways to find your own Xanadu, your refuge from the storm, your own formula for decreasing stress and increasing profitability.

  1. Get to know your Stress Patterns.
    1. Headache
    2. Stomach ache
    3. Jaw clenching
    4. Sudden increased body temperature
    5. Faster heart rate
    6. Overly emotional reactions
    7. There are more patterns than can be listed here, but you will recognize the markers in yourself.
  2. Identify Stress Triggers
    1. Money
    2. Work hours
    3. Employee challenges
    4. Missed objectives
    5. Personal and/or Work relationship problems
    6. Dislike of your work/role
    7. Holiday pressures
    8. Striving to be Perfect
  3. Take proactive steps to address stress levels
    1. Exercise
    2. Stress Breaks
    3. Rethink your Work Organization
    4. Dedicate time for recovery
    5. Set effective boundaries
    6. Engage an executive coach to guide you through the perils of your stress driven work life

So where to start? The entire premise of the Xanadu Code is to identify the best practices of top leaders in their fields and replicate those practices that empower without debilitating. What are your top techniques for maxing out your productivity while maintaining a healthy life balance?

Knowledge is power. By identifying and capitalizing on proven methods to reduce stress and maximize productivity and life satisfaction, the Xanadu Code, the path to peaceful innovation and progress, becomes clear.

For more information, contact founder and CEO Zsolt Bicskey at www.XanaduCode.com.